Arranged marriages have been an integral part of the
Indian society since ages. Basically a marriage is termed as arranged when it
is arranged by people other than those getting married. In the process, it even
curtails the phenomena of courtship. The other people involved in the
arrangement of the marriage can be parents, match making agents, matrimonial
sites or a trusted third party. In fact the task of match making is quite a
number of times carried out by priests, religious leaders, trusted relatives,
family friends, etc.
In older times, the bride and the groom were neither asked for their consent,
nor were they informed about the partner. However, with the evolution of time,
the society has also undergone a significant change. Nowadays, in arranged
marriages both the girl and the boy are asked for their consent. The process
begins with practices like matching the horoscope of the couple for checking
the compatibility, the background of the families and their castes.
After all the above things are ensured, a suitable date for the commencement of
the marriage is decided. Before marriage, an engagement ceremony is commenced
to ensure that the accord between the two families is finalized. In the modern
society, the boy and the girl are allowed to hold restricted meetings and
conversations before marriage. This makes it easy for both of them to open up
and also facilitates interaction and understanding.
The marriage ceremony is highly formal in case of an arranged marriage, the
marriage is conducted in strict accordance with the Vedic rites and rituals.
After marriage the bride is bid farewell amidst blessings for her prosperous
marital life. However like everything, arranged marriages have both pros and
cons. On one hand, they have better success rate as there are less expectations
and ego related issues.
On the other hand, the biggest threat that arranged marriages face is that if
either the boy or the girl is not ready for the marriage, it can lead to
serious trouble. This may even cause resentment and emotional setback for both
of them. Moreover, such a situation can even make a person get avert to the
idea of marriage itself. The main reason behind such a condition is pressure
from the family and parents. Thus, parents should keep in mind that in lieu of
being over authoritative they can ruin their children\'s life forever.